just a lil bit more… it’s all going much better than i thought i would be… i can see it ending in the nearest future… well, i still have much time… all of the time dedicated in the last few weeks, now i’m far in front of schedule… that’s it… i’m not stopping anymore… it’s a victory dance soon!!!
Alhamdulillah…
after a long struggle and hardships.. things have become a lot easier nowadays… i still can’t believe how things have changed.. is it true, what is happening now? or am i just dreaming???
things are very tough back then… i almost snap while hanging on my not-so-firm stand… patience pays.. now i believe it does…
looking back how things used to be, i’m glad that i decided to keep my faith strong… if somehow i chose to quit halfway, i know i won’t be able to enjoy this feeling…it’s not a victory yet… there’s still a lot of things waiting for my commitment… and the fatique is still like in the old days… but somehow i can feel it… i’m not stumbling on every other step any anymore…
maybe i’ve grown.. who knows.. maybe things are not actually get easier, maybe it’s just me.. getting more comfortable stepping onto those slippery stones…like today, i didn’t even fumble at the very moment i was worrying about… life’s great…isn’t it??
Alhamdulillah, Thanks to Allah for everything… for every moment and for every lesson.. for every breath that i took and still taking, and every breath that i held while grasping for reality.. for every sweet and sorrow, which made me a better ‘me’… thank you for this life, the one that i’ve been using in greed and ingratefulness…and thank you for choosing me to be among the believers… i can’t imagine living without this faith… and i do not want to die without it…. Alhamdulillah, Alhamdulillah,Alhamdulillah.. and may blessings be upon His Messenger, Muhammad S.A.W…
Sometimes you just don’t what to do, or where to go…
You feel lost at your own place, and at your own pace..
Sometimes you have to choose between two things that you want the most…
and sometimes you have to choose between two that you hate the most…
every now and then, you have to make decisions…
we have to decide for small things like what should we eat for breakfast?
or big things like, should we resign and look for other job?
making big decision is to determine which wind your yatch will sail with…
like the saying that goes :
“if a man knows not which harbour he seeks, any wind is the right wind”
you should know your harbour first, then you can choose which wind that will lead you there…
go on!! choose your destiny!! embrace it with dignity!!.. and have a safe trip..
Chances don’t come everyday, grab it while you can. there’s no use in waiting for a better moment. get it and rock it straight away………. those who wait for the biggest lump of meat will have to eat the bones…
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Often a disputed subject, I hope this information
can remove the common concerns people raise. And Allah Almighty is the
source of truth.
To begin with, it should be the responsibility of
those who believe that Aisha’s marriage took place at age nine, to provide
a few examples or historical evidences to substantiate their point of
view. I have not yet been able to find a single dependable instance in the
books of Arab history where any girl below the age of ten was given away
in marriage. Unless such examples are given, we do not have any reasonable
grounds to believe that it really was the social tradition.
In my
opinion, the age of Aisha (RA) has been grossly misreported in the
Ahadeeth. It clearly seems that the narratives reporting Aisha’s age
during her marriage are not only unreliable, but also on the basis of many
other historical evidences, very unlikely. Hence, let us analyze this
issue and look at it from an objective stand-point.
- Most of such
narratives are only by Hisham ibn ‘urwah reporting on the authority of his
father. An event as well-known as this, should logically have been
reported by more people than just one, two or three.
- It is quite
strange that no one from Madinah where Hisham ibn ‘urwah lived the first
71 years of his life has narrated the event, even though in Madinah his
pupils included people as famous as Malik ibn Anas. All the narratives of
this event have been reported by narrators from Iraq where Hisham is
reported to have had moved after living in Madinah for 71 years.
-
‘Tehzibul-tehzib’, one of the most well-known books on the life and
reliability of the narrators of the Sunnah reports that according to Yaqub
ibn Shaibah: “Narratives reported by Hisham are reliable except those that
are reported through the people of Iraq.” It further states that Malik ibn
Anas objected on those narratives of Hisham which were reported through
the people of Iraq. (vol 11, pg 48 – 51)
- ‘Mizanul-ai’tidal,’
another book on the narrators of the traditions of the Prophet (pbuh)
reports that when Hisham was old, his memory suffered a lot. (vol 4, pg
301 – 302)
- According to the generally accepted tradition, Aisha
(RA) was born about 8 years before Hijrah. But according to another
narrative in Bukhari (Kitabul-tafseer), Aisha (RA) is reported to have
said that at the time Surah Al-Qamar, the 54th surah of the Qur’aan was
revealed, “I was a young girl.” The 54th surah of the Qur’aan was revealed
9 years before Hijrah. According to this tradition, Aisha (RA) had not
only been born before the revelation of the referred surah, but was
actually a young girl (jariyah), not an infant (sibyah) at that time.
Obviously, if this narrative is held to be true, it is in clear
contradiction with the narratives reported by Hisham ibn’urwah. I see
absolutely no reason that after the comments of the experts on the
narratives of Hisham ibn’urwah, why we should not accept this narrative to
be more accurate.
- According to a number of narratives, Aisha
(RA) accompanied the Muslims in the battle of Badr and Uhud. Furthermore,
it is also reported in books of Hadeeth and history that no one under the
age of 15 years was allowed to take part in the battle of Uhud. All boys
below 15 years of age were sent back. Aisha’s (RA) participation in the
battle of Badr and Uhud clearly indicate that she was not 9 or 10 years
old at that time. After all, women used to accompany men to the battle
fields to help them, not to be a burden on them.
- According to
almost all the historians, Asma, the elder sister of Aisha was 10 years
older than Aisha. It is reported in ‘Tari’bul-Tehzib’ as well as
‘Al-bidayah wa’l-nihayah’ that Asma died in 73 Hijrah when she was almost
100 years old. Now, obviously if Asma was 100 years old in 73 Hijrah, she
must have been 27 or 28 years old at the time of Hijrah. And if Asma was
27 or 28 years old at the time of Hijrah, Aisha must have been 17 or 18
years old at that time. Thus, Aisha (RA), if she got married in 1 AH or 2
AH, was 18 to 20 years old.
- Tabari in his treatise on Islamic
history, while mentioning Abu Bakr, reports that Abu Bakr had 4 children
and all 4 were born during the Jahiliyah (pre-Islamic) period. Obviously,
if Aisha was born in the period of Jahiliyah, she could not have been less
than 14 years in 1 AH .. the time she most likely got married.
-
According to Ibn Hisham, the historian, Aisha (RA) accepted Islam quite
sometime before Umar bin Khattab. This shows that Aisha became a Muslim
during the first year of Islam. While, if the narrative of Aisha’s
marriage at 7 years of age is held to be true, Aisha could not have been
born during the first year of Islam.
- Tabari has also reported
that at the time Abu Bakr planned on migrating to Habshah (8 years before
Hijrah), he went to Mutam with whose son Aisha was engaged, and asked him
to take Aisha in his house as his son’s wife. Mutam refused because Abu
Bakr had embraced Islam, and subsequently his son’s engagement with Aisha
was terminated. Now, if Aisha was only 7 years old at the time of her
marriage, she could not have been born at the time Abu Bakr decided on
migrating to Habshah. On the basis of this report it seems only reasonable
to assume that Aisha (RA) had not only been born 8 years before Hijrah,
but was also a young lady, quite prepared for marriage.
-
According to a narrative reported by Ahmad ibn Hanbal, after the death of
Khadijah (RA), when Khaulah came to the Prophet (Pbuh) advising him to
marry again, the Prophet asked her regarding the choices she had in her
mind. Khaulah said: “You can marry a virgin (bikr) or a divorcee
(thayyib).” When the Prophet (pbuh) asked who the virgin was, Khaulah
proposed Aisha’s name. All those who know the Arabic language are aware
that the word ‘bikr’ in Arabic is not used for an immature 9-year-old
girl. The correct word for a playful little girl, as stated earlier is
‘Jariyah.’ ‘Bikr’ on the other hand, is used for an unmarried lady, and
obviously a 9-year-old is not a “lady.”
- According to ibn Hajar,
Fatimah was 5 years older than Aisha. Fatimah is reported to have been
born when the Prophet (pbuh) was 35 years old. Thus, even if this
information is taken to be correct, Aisha could by no means be less than
14 years old at the time of Hijrah, and 15 or 16 years old at the time of
her marriage.
These are some of the major points that go against
accepting the commonly known narrative regarding Aisha’s (RA) age at the
time of her marriage.
From the ISLAMIC REVIEW:
(1) The
well-known historian ibn Jareer al-Tabari writes at page 50 of volume 4 of
his ‘Book of History’ : “Abu Bakr married two ladies in the days of
Jahiliya. Fateelah, daughter of Abd al-Aza was the first from whom
Abdullah and Asma were born. Umm-i-Rooman was the second, from whom Abd
al-Rahman and Aisha were born. All 4 children of Abu Bakr were born in the
days of ignorance (Jahiliyah, i.e. pre-Islamic days) from the above-named
two ladies.
(2) It is a well-known fact of history that Abu Bakr’s
son Abd al-Rahman fought against the Muslims in the battle of Badr. His
age at that time was 21-22 years, and although he was older than Aisha,
there is no evidence to show that the difference between their ages was
more than 3 or 4 years. This fact lends support to the view that Aisha
(RA) was born 4 or 5 years before the Call.
(3) The author of the
well-known collection of Hadeeth ‘Mishkat al-Masabeeh,’ Sheik
Waheed-ud-Deen writes in his renowned book ‘Ahmal fi Asma ‘ al-Rijjal’:
“At the time of the consummation of her marriage, Sayedah Aisha’s age was
not less than 18-19 years.”
All the above quotations give ample
refutation to the common misconception that Aisha’s age at the time of her
Nikah was six years and at the time of her marriage only nine years. In
the opinion of all perceptive historians and scholars, neither was it an
Arab tradition to give away girls in marriage below 12 years of age, nor
did the Prophet marry Aisha at such a young age. The people of Arabia did
not object to this marriage because it never happened in the manner it has
been narrated. If Muslim scholars of the present era deem fit to make an
objective research instead of beating the old track, they will find ample
material in the pages of history to arrive at the correct age of Aisha
(RA) during the time of her marriage.
May Allah (Subhan Wa’Tala)
continue to help us confirm authentic knowledge.
And Allah (Subhan
Wa’Tala) is the source of truth. Allah-o-Alim.
